Parenting

How Did The First Nursery Goodbye Wave Go?

How did the first goodbye wave at nursery go?

7 months after starting nursery, I finally got a goodbye wave from my little one. It was a shy, short wave while he was being carried by the nursery worker. It was a really big deal to the worker as everyday I dropped him off, the workers would repeatedly try to get him to say goodbye. But he’d either jet off to the toys or look at me with big sad eyes until I left.

This particular drop-off started with the sad expression. However, the third time he was asked, he actually did a little wave. The worker was overjoyed but I had a sudden, overwhelming need to cry. I couldn’t get out of there quickly enough. I tried to attribute it to the pregnancy hormones but I’m not sure I can lay the blame entirely in that court. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want him to be sad at nursery but just to miss me for a few seconds before jumping into the ball pit. I knew he was happy at nursery when I wasn’t there so this was the only part of his day I could cling in to.

He hasn’t waved goodbye to me again since then so my emotions are back in check. I know the day will come when he can’t wait to go to nursery. In fact, currently,  the mention of his keyworker’s name in the morning gets him to the door very quickly. But until then, I want to cherish these moments for as long as I can!

6 Comments

  • Taylor

    How sweet! As a nursery worker, I’ve only seen the side of being a worker. There were many kids who would cry for their mothers, and there were others who would bounce on it. At the time, my only concern was the children. Thank you for bringing in the perspective of a mother!!

  • Julie

    These are bittersweet moments aren’t they? We don’t want our babies to grow up, but yet we also want them to be independent at the same time.
    My oldest is getting ready for college in less than 2 years and I’m feeling a little like you are!

  • keisharussell84

    Such a wonderful post! I know that many will be helped that are also struggling. It is so tough to trust others with our babies.

  • Suzanne Cox

    That is so sweet. Takes me back to my older Son’s first morning at nursery when he had just turned two. He just went in happily without saying goodbye to me. I felt a very surprising wrench, I had been a SAHM until then (well still was with a bit of self-empoyed work), and was 7 weeks pregnant with my second. I came home and had a cry. I was asked to phone back after two hours to see how he was getting on and to decide whether I should pick him up. I phoned and was told that you wouldn’t have thought it was his first session. The keyworker suggested that I pick him up at the usual time, I then laughed. My second was clingier, but how I wish my first boy was the happy little boy he was at 2 now he is nearly 11.

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